A while ago I posted about how it is the ones without ADHD that are the real loonies and the rubbish advice they give you. I think I mentioned the (un)helpful advice of using a diary when we all already have many diaries. The same applies to lists. You have so many lists that you actually have started to make a list of lists, at least once, right?
Anyway, great minds think alike, or at least the ADHD ones do, since we all encounter similar problems including getting advice to make lists. Here’s what Kim Kensington has to say:
Everyone puts their foot in it now and again, and people with ADHD do it more than most. There’s the impulsivity that some people have and there’s the being distracted by all sorts of things and just not thinking hard enough about that you are about to say.
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I can’t imagine who put that picture there at the top of the page. Rubbish. Needs something much better.
Suppose it’s meant to be symbolic or something. Long hard road. Dust, dirt and grime. Getting lost. Rubbish. Can anyone come up with a better one?
Honestly! Some of the advice we get for dealing with ADHD comes from Professors of The Bleedin’ Obvious at Bloodyuseless College, Oxford!
‘Top’ ADHD coach that shall remain nameless (unless enough of you ask!) has just issued a list of top tips for overcoming ADHD. The first one made me want to gnaw my own leg off:
Keep the goal in mind.
One of the hardest struggles for my clients is keeping their goals in mind. If you can’t see your goals, you’ll be more likely to get off track. Devise methods to keep the goal in mind, and to see, and track, progress. Mark your goals with colored markers on a monthly calendar and post it where you will see it throughout the day, in the kitchen, perhaps, or over your workstation or desk.
Keep the goal in mind. Thanks! I hadn’t thought of that! Well done! If you give advice for overcoming depression do you say ‘cheer up, misery guts!’? Do you deal with schizophrenics by saying ‘Don’t be such a loony!’? Of course it is one of the hardest struggles for your clients, because that’s the essence of the problem in the first place.
“Devise methods to keep the goal in mind”. Brilliant advice! That what they’re paying you for! How successful would a tennis coach be if she gave the advice “Devise methods for scoring more points than your opponent.”? Answer: not very.
And then the ultimate: a monthly calendar. Well that’s new, I must say. No one with ADHD ever, ever thought of using a calendar. No, it is our appalling lack of knowledge of commonly used pieces of stationary that has been holding us all back all these years. Thank you so very much. Now I realise what all those funny bits of paper with the name of a month at the top and lines dividing the paper into boxes, with numbers are. Blimey, I’ve just got it. The numbers are consecutive, aren’t they? They’re days of the month! Hurrah! I’m cured! Continue reading